And then I got over it.
I talked to our pediatrician and read several books and articles about the problem, and they all pretty much sent the same message:
It is the parent's job to provide a variety of healthy foods for a toddler to eat. It is the toddler's job to decide whether or not to eat said healthy foods and how much.Such a short but very powerful statement. It's made some big changes in our house. No more special meals for AJ. Of course, this has more than once resulted in her eating nothing but strawberries or crackers for dinner. She has more options of course, but she has to make the decision to try new things.
We are making progress. Yesterday she licked a little bit of ketchup off of a chicken nugget before putting it back on her plate. Little victories! It just feels good to know that we're not in this boat alone.
If you have any suggestions for surviving a picky eater or can recommend any literature on the subject, please send them my way. I appreciate it!
Here are a couple of the books that have been saving my sanity recently: